Years ago, when I was first coming on board as a trainer for U.C. Davis Extension, a former director there said something that has stayed with me all this time. He said he had been in the training business for (something like) 30 years and probably never had an original thought in all that time. Of course, all the trainers and would-be trainers in the room laughed. I didn’t quite “get it” at the time. However, today I see how true that was.
A good workshop or group facilitator, trainer, teacher is a master of integration. He/she takes research, various approaches, “book-learning,” different perspectives and life experiences and integrates them all in the moment with what is happening in the room and with the experiences of the participants. So, how does that relate to “relationship building and collaboration?”
Healthy relationships, be they professional or personal, are really an integration – an integration of someone else’s perspective and world view with our own, and the process of collaboration that it takes to get there. We often find this difficult because we get caught in our own world view, become attached to our own perspective, insistent upon our own philosophy, or stuck in our own mandates to the exclusion of others. So, we simply don’t absorb the understanding of what the other person is saying. And on a personal level, integrating another into our hearts is often a complicated process of expectations, negotiating unmet needs, and the desire for the fullness that comes with loving another (and self).
Try as I might, I simply can’t think of a more important journey or “job” right now than exploring healthy integration and collaboration strategies. One has only to listen to the nightly news to see the need for integration of different perspectives so that we can all move forward.
May the New Year bring you growth (“medra” in Spanish) in all your relationships.
With Best Wishes and Warm regards,